I was inspired by Vern Enciso to share a post about my relationship with Ian. Ours is not a perfect relationship nor free from arguments but I believe it's a fun and blissful one. Every couple is unique and has their own love story so allow me to share what I've learned (and still learning) and what I realized along the way...
1. Love will find you. Falling in love is easy but maintaining the love needs work.
2. The differences of men and women doesn't stop in their biological features. Our brains are wired differently. It's way more complicated than that.
3. Men are not multi-taskers so they can't text while they're doing something.
4. If you say "ok" they would assume that, really, everything is alright.
5. You need to tell them straightforward what it is that you really want or else you would never have it. They're not good guessers.
6. Both men and women need some time off from the relationship. I mean, we still have separate friends and family that we need to spend some time right?
7. It is important that you still get to do what you love doing before you have each other.
8. Being in a relationship should not stop you from reaching that childhood dream.
9. Everything could be settled from rational and calm conversations.
10. It is not just about me and my needs anymore. I should also consider Ian's feelings and needs.
11. Communication is a must. A day shouldn't pass by without you two talking/calling/texting. A "how's your day?" or "good night" is already enough if you two are really busy.
12. Laughter keeps the relationship fun and sane.
13. Dates (and doing something new) keep your bonding closer and the romance intact.
14. Touching (like a hug, holding hands, or a squeeze in the shoulder) can make you feel that you're never alone.
15. Travelling allows you to know each other better.
16. Sharing the same values and perception help strengthen your relationship.
17. Monthsaries are not that essential but anniversaries should be celebrated because it's your way of looking back on how you two started.
18. Being crazy once in a while makes your relationship way, way fun :)
19. Supporting each other's endeavors makes you believe in yourself more and the more you get inspired to do things.
20. There are times that your partner's quirkiness may annoy you so patience is a must.
21. Your partner may disappoint you at times so you should never stop understanding.
22. Trust is crucial in any relationship. Being praning would do more harm than good.
23. Arguments will always arise. But remember to talk calmly and think before saying anything.
24. The relationship should help bring out the best in you. Not the worst.
25. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and care in a relationship.
26. Partnership means that major decisions should be consulted with your partner. You cannot just do things because you want to. You have to consider your partner's feelings. Partnership also means helping each other and being there for each other especially in times of crisis.
27. Appreciating your partner can boost confidence. Saying thank you or he looks good is nice. An honest opinion (be it good or bad) should always be welcome in any relationship.
28. Prayer is really, really important. No matter how good you do in a relationship, if it's not meant to be then it isn't... but we fight for the relationsship dba??? So we should also entrust the relationship to the Lord coz He's the only third party needed..
How about you? What have you learned from your relationships?
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