“What is
love? What are your views on love?” (or something like it)
This has
been asked by Boy Abunda to his three guests, Luis Manzano, Toni Gonzaga, and
Vice Ganda, yesterday in The Buzz.
Luis
Manzano answered that “Love is compromise.” No two people are alike and no one
is perfect so there will come a point that you have to compromise in order to
meet halfway.
According
to Merriam-Webster dictionary, compromise is a settlement of differences by
arbitration or by consent reached by mutual concessions.
Luis has
a point but I don’t like the word “compromise” for love. When we love, things
may get blurry at times. But that doesn’t mean that we have to compromise our
values and principles for love. I mean, if it’s for the better then good! But
usually we compromise our good values for the sake of love. We compromise our
goals and dreams for love. We tend to compromise ourselves that we end up
losing ourselves in the process. Tsk, tsk, tsk...
I won’t
forget what Jennifer Aniston said years ago in a PDI column (when she was still
very much in love with Brad Pitt) that a relationship should be a collaboration
instead of compromise.
Collaboration
is synonymous with cooperation, partnership, relationship, union and alliance
(Merriam-Webster Dictionary).
Since
then, it remained in my heart and mind (naks!) that love is collaboration. A
relationship should be about collaboration. Yes, men are from Mars and women
are from Venus but that doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to have a great
relationship! If only the two people in a relationship actually communicate
(talk openly and listen patiently) then a beautiful union can happen. But collaboration
shouldn’t end with communication. The couple should help each other out and
know how it is to give-and-take.
Toni
Gonzaga answered that “Love is about sacrifices.” Whew! Such a deep and sad
word. But yes, it happens especially when it comes to families. Our parents may
opt to work in a foreign country to be able to give us a more comfortable life.
Children may decide to take over the family business instead of following their
dreams.
But
personally, I believe that a deed won’t feel like a sacrifice if you do it
whole-heartedly. Right? I do hope that a happy ending is bound to happen after
the sacrifices J
Meanwhile,
Vice Ganda said that “Love knows no gender.” Indeed! J Everyone is entitled to love and
be loved .
On the
other hand, Boy Abunda said that “Love is about forgiveness.” I believe it is.
When one doesn’t know how to forgive, then he doesn’t know how to love. We all
make mistakes and it is very humbling to ask for forgiveness. And to forgive
someone is a brave thing to do. But I must say that if the same mistake keeps
happening over and over again then a tough love must be given. If tough love
still doesn’t work out then I guess it would be better to give up especially if
you are not yet binded by God. Haha! Di ba?
*sigh*
Love, love, love. It would never be overrated. This is the reason why our lives
are much more colourful worth waking up to. Without love in our lives, what are
we? Who are we?
The
bible says it all on what love is all about.
1 Corinthians 13:1-13 - Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
If you ask me what love is...hmm...I'll answer that soon!
How
about you? What is your view on love? J
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